As John Gardner said:

“Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.”

Sadly, I see all too many coaches and therapists acting like their lives are grim and hopeless.

There are a number of things wrong with that:

  • It’s not true. This is the best time to be alive, full of hope and possibilities like never before
  • It’s visible to clients, who’ll run a mile rather than work with you
  • It lowers your expectations of positive results, so you engineer failure

Look, I get it.

Life isn’t all a bed of geraniums, but it is 99% what you make it.

In its most potent form, self-pity makes you feel ok with creating a life you don’t want.

And that’s a twisting of reality worthy of an hallucinatory narcotic, right?

Jonny

PS – Most self-pity comes from a simple lack of clients. Here’s how to make sure that doesn’t happen to you. 

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