Chatting to a client the other day, and she ran through a long list of reasons why she hadn’t started a profitable piece of work we’d been discussing.
Instead, she’d been consumed with:
- Dropping next door’s kids to their father’s house
- Painting her study and laying a new carpet
- Planning a fund-raising dinner for a friend
- Suing a company who owed her money
- Comforting a depressed ex-boyfriend
There were more items on her “priority” list, but five’s enough to make the point.
I interrupted her flow after 15 minutes and said, ok I hear you.
“Who’s making you do all that stuff?”
She paused for more than a few seconds and did a massive exhale. Then, with watery eyes and in barely a whisper, she said two strange words.
“You’re right”
Strange, because I hadn’t given any verdict on what was happening.
I just asked a question. The rest of our conversation is less important, because we uncovered what’s going on.
She’s addicted to chaos.
Worse. It’s petty, unimportant, non-challenging chaos which takes time and grants her no financial reward.
Maybe she’s afraid of success
Maybe she’s afraid of failure
Maybe she has money blocks from childhood
Maybe she just wants to be liked
Maybe peace and stability scares her
We didn’t have time to dig any deeper, but here’s the lesson:
You get to design your own life. Chaos, calm, calamity or comfort.
It’s you who did that. It’s always you.
Love you lots
Jonny
PS: When you become a CIB consultant, you’ll be hanging out with people who live rewarding, profitable lives, supporting companies and organisations at scale with their employee wellbeing.
A handful of lucrative corporate engagements is enough to ensure you’re thriving and liberate you forever from a chaotic existence.
Reply with “CALM” and I’ll send you my all-new eBook all about how we do this.